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Life Lessons: Comes The Dawn

Comes The Dawn
Veronica Shoffstall

After a while you learn the
Subtle difference
Between holding a hand and
Chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security
And you begin to learn that
Kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child
And you learn to build all your roads on
Because tomorrow’s ground is too
Uncertain for plans
And futures have a way of falling
Down in mid-flight
After a while you learn that even
Sunshine burns
If you get too much
So you plant your own garden
And decorate your own soil
Instead of waiting for someone to
Bring you flowers
And you learn that you really can endure
That you really are strong
And you learn and learn
With every goodbye you learn.


April 29, 2012 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Kids on Race: The Hidden Picture by Anderson Cooper

Why are so many Caucasians afraid to just let their kids be kids and explore relationships as they develop? Why do so many teach and really put the fear of God in them too only be friends or associate with people whose skin color looks like theirs?

That would be okay, I suppose if you could find a place in all the United States that represent what they are trying to instill in the minds of innocence. But, that’s not reality and it’s not even close too what will be their kid’s reality as they mature into adults.

Could this be the reason that after there kids reach adulthood, the now racist grown child has problems living and integrating into society as you know it?

What about the kids that are the same color but from vey different parts of the world? It would be interesting to see what type of conversation that their racist [white or black] parents would have to say about that.

Fortunately, with various social media outlets and computers, the young minds are beginning to question the theory “of only associate with people that have the same skin color” hand down by their racist [white or black] parents and are beginning to challenge such negative and hateful notions and references to not just people of color but anyone who is inherently different from them.

As you see more and more bi-racial couples marry and have families, even in the midst of racial hatred, you have to believe that eventually you will see the common thread of humanism and not the threat of hatred that has been a part of America’s history since its inception.

My thoughts on racism are very simple:

“Racism is a learned behavior. Only people with inferiority complexes teach their children to hate and not associate with someone because of the color of their skin.”

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April 6, 2012 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Bobby Brown Explains Why He Left Whitney Houston’s Funeral

Bobby Brown left Whitney Houston’s Funeral upset over the way that he and his family were treated.

After entering the church and escorted to their seats by security and before they could settle in their seats, the security asked that Bobby Brown and his family move not once but twice more and Bobby was forbidden again by security, [at the instructions of Houston’s family] to offer his condolence to his only child in the marriage to Whitney, Bobbi Kristina.

At that point, Bobby Brown decided that he had experienced enough embarrassment, while being disrespected in the church, at the funeral, and in front of his children, that the best thing to do at this point was to just blow a kiss toward Whitney Houston’s casket and gather his family and leave with the same respect that he had entered the church.

Was that the proper and Christian way to treat the father of Whitney’s only child, Bobbi Kristina and Whitney’s husband of 15 years? My answer is an astounding NO!

While it was clear that Whitney’s family did not approve of her choice in Bobby Brown, and they extrapolated that at every venue possible, it also became painfully clear as time pass that Whitney loved Bobbi Brown passionately. And while you may not approve or understand the relationship between the two; you have to respect her decision, after all, “it was her decision to marry Bobby Brown.”

I’ve watched many interviews, whereby various anchors would interview Whitney, and in all of them, she would reiterate over and over again, that Bobby and I are more alike than you think. I understood what she meant by that.

Whitney was saying, “I understand the image that you have created for me and the one that I have created for myself in an effort to uphold that image, but there is another layer under that image that is not like the one that must be presented before the world. That deeper layer is more like the real Whitney Houston and Bobby brings that out of me.”

I know we all look for someone to blame when one of our beloved entertainers does not consistently meet up to our expectations. Whitney was a realist and understood as she so eloquently responded to Diane Sawyer in one of her many interviews, “I am my own demon!” At that moment and at that time, she didn’t place blame on anyone for the state that she found herself in, but “stood front and center” and accepted responsibility for Whitney. I gained, yet another level of respect for her to have the courage and come on national TV and “stand in her own truth.

Not one person alive and not one person reading this is “without sin!!! That’s a fact . . . . Like it or not!!! Not me . . . and not you.

“YOUR SIN OR SINS IS NOT THE SUM TOTAL OF YOUR LIFE . . . . . . . EVEN IF YOUR SIN . . . . . . . . . . CAUSES YOU . . . . . . . YOUR LIFE!!!”

** Always Remember: That your craft should not define who you are as a person but only what you do. There is yet another layer to you waiting to be discovered by others.**

February 19, 2012 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

One Moment in Time by Whitney Houston

So, when they continued asking Him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them,”He that is without sin among you, let him cast a stone at her.” (7)

And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground. (8)

And they which heard it, “being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. (9)

When Jesus had lifted up Himself, and saw none but the woman, He said unto her, “Woman, where are those accusers? hath no man condemned thee?” (10)

She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, “Neither do I condemn thee: go,and sin no more.” (11)

Then spake Jesus again unto them saying, “I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.” (12)

John 8:7-12 KJV Matthew Henry Study Bible

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February 15, 2012 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Gordon & Norma Yeager: Married for 72 Years, Died “Holding Hands!”

Gordon and Norma Yeager, 94 and 90, respectively, were married for 72 years, died holding hands in a Des Moines hospital. The Yeager’s were involved in a car accident that would prove fatal.

And while Gordon Yeager’s heart stop beating at 3:38pm, the heart monitor continued to detect a heart beat. The family could not understand how that was possible, until the nurse explained that because Gordon and Norma were still holding hands, the monitor actually picked up Norma’s heartbeat through Gordon and the monitor did not flat line until Norma Yeager would succumb to her injuries at 4:48pm.

As in life, always inseparable, and even though they never regained consciousness, looking at them holding hands, still clinging on to each other, you could sense and feel the presence of a higher power at that moment. Somehow you just knew that they were together in a better place.

Donna Sheets, the Yeager’s daughter stated that “neither one of them would have wanted to be without the other. “They’re very old fashioned. They believed in marriage ‘til death do us part,” stated their son, Dennis Yeager. Gordon and Norma Yeager married on May 26, 1939, lived, loved and laughed together for 72 years, died on October 12, 2011 … “Holding Hands” in unspoken love.

October 20, 2011 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , | Leave a comment

George Anthony is on the brink of telling the Truth!!!

The secret that Mr. Anthony is trying to keep is eating him up alive. He is trying to subdue himself but the shame and guilt of what he knows is the truth! is about to over power him. He needs to come clean and just let it all out and tell the court what his involvement was and why he seems to be taking the death of little Caylee Marie so much harder than anyone else, including Casey, herself.

June 29, 2011 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , | 2 Comments

You be the Judge! Is this Law and Order or Law and Disorder?

Scales of Justice

The names will be changed to protect the not so innocent. Here is the scenario:

My friend was dismissed from her job for going by the letter of the law. She was approached by her superiors including her own boss to play like everyone else, which included co-horting with the opposite sex to secure her job in these uncertain times.

Fortunately or unfortunately for her, she stuck to her belief and her religion and resisted the works of evil. However, due to politics as it is, they ultimately relieved her from her job because she would not play along to get along and she consistently rejected their offer to go drinking on Friday’s or have illicit affairs with her superiors, as was the case with many but not all of her peers.

Before she was finally dismissed, she had to write a memo in order to receive even a minuet pencil, while her other peers just went to the facilities department and ask and was given pencils, pens, papers, batteries etc.

My friend’s life was also threaten by one of her co-workers, [unbeknownst to her, before she was advised by her supervisor] and that same co-worker is still working on the job. My friend told me that her boss said “don’t worry about it” that Mary would take care of it. Audrey was in the room with my friend and Mary and is a witness to what was discussed.

After the meeting about someone threatening her life, she went back to the office and confided with several of her workers as to what took place in the meeting.

After several weeks of sexual harassment by her boss and her boss’s boss, they finally figured out a way to have her dismissed from her job. Budget time was coming and they had to trim the budget. What better way to get rid of my friend and keep the players’. Even if it meant having two employees do the same work that she performed alone.

She could have informed someone in authority outside of her agency as what was really happening under their nose, but choose to be silent.

Have you ever heard of the phrase, “If the walls could talk?”

But, what if the walls could talk? It would bring the entire organization to its knee’s, starting with the very top person. If the walls could talk, it would tell you all about the sex and partner switching antics inside a government building, married superiors fighting over their subordinates, along with the drugs, illicit deals with other professionals and all the other antics consistent with the mafia not the government.Days of Our Lives” and “As the World Turn,” have nothing on this organized and corrupted group of administrators.

My friend said that she would give me their names but it would take up an entire page in and of itself, but you know who you are and you know how you got there!

Is this law and order or law and disorder? You be the judge!

June 24, 2011 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Followers or Thinkers: until we learn the difference, we will all suffer. “For every action there is a reaction.”

When a speaker begins to expound on a topic of interest, it’s only considered free speech, if the outcome only affects the orator. If the topic of interest will affect others, then it’s not free. If while you’re seeking freedom to remain in this country, you’re literally, stepping on the necks of others, then your freedom is not without a cause, and certainly not free. Even when you see the advertisement, “Buy One Get One Free” it’s not free! The actual cost is divided between the two items to bring your final cost down.

Have you ever heard the phrase? “He can’t think his way out of a paper bag!” The phrase sounds ridiculous, but there are many people that can’t think their way out of a paper bag because they were not trained or programmed, if you will, too think for themselves.

People, you need to know when to follow and when to back away. You must learn and I can’t emphasize this statement enough, when to “T.H.I.N.K” for yourself. Unfortunately, the majority of the people born and raised in the United States are followers. They are good at taking directions, but paralyzed, when it comes to independent thinking.

I’ve worked in the government workforce for over 30 years and the common rule is “Don’t Make Waves!” and the companies that employ you really mean, “Don’t Make Waves!” They expect you to play along to get along. The employee is deeply discouraged and often penalized for having a vision, rather than being a robot, which can take orders and just be quiet. It becomes painfully clear, early on, that you’re not paid to think.

If the companies culture is to do the bare minimum, socialize a lot, work enough not too cause alarm, and drink and sex everybody under the table, they expect you to fall in line, and if you don’t cooperate, then you’re out. Would you follow this culture? Surprisingly! A lot of employees, young and old, new or seasoned just fall in line and become part of the status quo. Why? They have been trained to be followers and not thinkers. Work ethics, integrity, fidelity, self-esteem, self respect and sometimes religion are tossed out the window. Why? They are trained to be Follower’s not Thinker’s! They know the phrase, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” all too well. Once again, “play along to get along!” Followers and not Thinkers!

People, you need to know, “when to hold” and “when to fold.” I know it’s hard, but you’ve got to learn to think for yourself. Learn when the price of a relationship; be it personal, political or professional is too high! ‘Is the price too high?’ Don’t just think of the instant gratification from your decision but think it through from A to Z, and make a determination after all things are considered. Will your decision allow you to live with yourself, sleep at night and look at yourself in the mirror the next morning without regret?

What is the ultimate price for following blindly and often ignorantly without any thought or little thought to the eventual outcome? If you don’t know the answer, just look around, the followers are everywhere, ready to fight and incite on a moments notice. Why? Followers are always considered the weak link and can be easily manipulated. If you must follow! Then, know who you’re following and why you’re following that person or cause and what could be the ultimate outcome to you and others, and “Is the price too high?”

Be careful of the one that roars the loudest, then run and hide and see what you’re going to do. “Hit and Run Leaders” always look for the weakest link to support their under-handed and sometimes deadly causes. “Are you the weak link that they are looking for?”

I hope that this message gives you cause to pause and examine your prospective in life and even ask yourself the question, “Am I a Follower or Thinker?”

January 9, 2011 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Unemployed and Broke this Christmas…”You’re not alone!”

With more than 17 million people unemployed and counting, there will be many families who find themselves, “Unemployed and Broke this Christmas.” While you may feel like you’re alone, you’re not!

I’m sure it doesn’t make you feel any better but with the angels of “grace” and “mercy,” watching over you, it will bring the family closer.

Sit down and have a family meeting and discuss the finances with the family honestly. Don’t pretend that things are still “status quo” and everything is still the same, when it’s not. Your children are capable of understanding, if you explain it to them on their level without scaring or frightening them. If you don’t speak to them about what’s happening, they almost always assume the worse.

Remind yourself, first, and then remind them of the things that they have to be grateful for. Here are a few reasons to be grateful to get you started.

1. You were able to get out of bed on your own free will, without medical assistance or equipment.

2. You were able to sleep in your own bed last night, you’re not homeless.

3. All your major organs (heart, liver, kidney, etc,) are still functioning properly.

4. You have clothes to wear and shoes to put on your feet.

5. You can cook breakfast, lunch or dinner in your own kitchen.

6. While you may not have as much food in the cabinets as before, you still have food.

7. You have more time too spend with each other.

8. You remember the real reason to celebrate Christmas and it’s not shopping, shopping, shopping.

9. Your faith in yourself is realized and your faith in God is intensified.

10. As a family, you understand that this situation is only temporary and “This too shall Pass!

11. You come to understand that your testimony is in the test!

I know how you feel because I’m one of the millions that’s unemployed but not without “faith” and “hope” for a better tomorrow. Don’t give up! Keep searching and sending out those résumés’ and one day in the near future, your name will be called and your phone will ring with a “You’re Hired” on the other end. In the phrase that Adam Clayton Powell made famous, “Keep the Faith, Baby! Keep the Faith!”

December 15, 2010 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , | Leave a comment

All Corporate CEO’s should go undercover for a week! It’ll save them millions in lost revenue.

It’s not the executive director, senior administrator, operations manager, or even the executive assistant that you will gain the most useful knowledge and actually learns what’s really going on and who is really running your corporation.

It’s the invisible employee that comes to work everyday for minimal pay and give the company 110 percent without even so much as a “Thank You for a job well done at the end of the year.”

Much of the credit you give to your top management should actually be given to one or two exceptional workers, who consistently go the extra mile then humbly, step back and let their supervisor take the credit for their work and not say a word for fear of losing their job.

It is not unusual for upper management to give an assignment to their director, who in turn gives the assignment to their subordinate to complete as a “special project.”

Their boss may even get a promotion! This is common practice.

CEO’s can learn more about the operations of the business in one week going undercover, than they can learn in a year meeting with their directors.

Directors tell you what you want to hear, the support staff tell you like it is. That’s the truth!

November 15, 2010 Posted by | Life Lessons | , , , | Leave a comment